May 2018: Thought For The Month
When your love runs dry
Loving someone can be absolutely exhausting. Don’t let anyone fool you. The kind of love that really makes a difference in this world can quickly suck everything out of you.
Sometimes you can feel like you just don’t have any more love to give. Maybe you’re in a people-intensive job, such as teacher, salesman or waitress, and you come home and think, “I just can’t face another need, another problem or another heartache.” So you just shut down. Or you need to show love to a particular person who is demanding, selfish and never returns your love, and you just think to yourself, “I can’t keep on doing this, I’m done, no more.”
While that’s perfectly natural and perfectly human, we can only do so much under our own strength, it’s not the standard of love God demonstrates or calls us to in the Bible. The Bible says “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance” (1 Corinthians 13:7). Love never gives up.
How can you have that kind of persistent love for another person? You have to get refuelled, often.
I remember once I went to a national air show. It was so impressive to see how they can hook up a tanker plane to a jet and refuel it in-flight. Can you imagine someone flying a jet saying, “I don’t need to refuel!” In a long distance flight, a jet has to refuel.
It’s the same with us; loving someone is a marathon and not a sprint. To give the kind of persistent love that God wants you to give, you have to refuel your love tank. Look around at society and you’ll see that it’s littered with debris from relationships that have crashed and burned because people didn’t refuel their love and tried to run on empty.
How do you refuel your love tank? You start by letting God love you. The Apostle John wrote, “We love because he first loved us” (1 John 4:19). When you’re worn out, tired and can’t imagine showing love to anyone else, remember that God loved you so much that he sent his Son to die for you. Now that’s real fuel.